Date night is, without a doubt, super important. After you go out on the date, chances are you feel super attracted to your partner and you want to rip off his clothes, light some candles, turn on Bon Iver, and start getting busy. After all, that’s way sexier than doing it in the morning, when you’re late for spin class and have morning breath, right?
Uhh…that might be wrong. Apparently, nighttime is actually a pretty crappy time for most people to have sex, Michael J. Breus, PhD, revealed to The Stir. (In fact, he went so far to say, “whoever decided couples should have sex at 11 o’clock at night was an idiot.” Whoops.) It turns out the best time to get it on is actually in the morning.
Breus knows what he’s talking about — he wrote a whole book about the best times to do things (like sex!), which is aptly called The Power of When. The book delves into the idea that people have different “chronotypes” that determine exactly when they should do various activities. Of course, timing sex according to chronotype is a lot more complicated than just saying “sex is better in the morning,” but most (but not all) people did have that timing in common when it comes to sex.
“Seventy-two to 73 percent of when we have sex is about convenience, not really desire or connection,” he said. “There’s nothing wrong with that, but if you’re looking for more meaning and passion, you’ve got to go with the flow in terms of your hormones.” He also points out two other perks of morning sex sessions: You haven’t been drinking (so, no whiskey dick) and the lights will be on. You’ll get to see what your partner looks like, in his flesh and glory!
Oh, and also: There’s science backing up why sex is better in the a.m. than it is in the p.m. “You need certain hormones like testosterone, estrogen, progesterone, cortisol, adrenaline, oxytocin, and vasopressin to become sexually aroused, and all of these are actually low in the evening,” he explained. “Our body’s bio rhythms aren’t urging us toward any physical activity or amorousness [then], but toward sleep.”
Of course, though, sex is an individual thing and will vary from person to person. But in the meantime, maybe you should start setting your to alarm clock a little earlier than usual?