What’s Your Motive?
Why do you seek sex? Motivations generally fall into four main categories, according to psychologists at UT-Austin who asked more than 1,500 undergraduate college students about their sexual attitudes and experiences:
- Physical reasons: Pleasure, stress relief, exercise, sexual curiosity, or attraction to a person
- Goal-based reasons: To make a baby, improve social status (for example, to become popular), or seek revenge
- Emotional reasons: Love, commitment, or gratitude
- Insecurity reasons: To boost self-esteem, keep a partner from seeking sex elsewhere, or feeling a sense of duty or pressure (for example, a partner insists on having sex)